Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin

Love the sinner, hate the sin is a phrase often used by Christians to describe our attitude towards sinners (aka everyone), but more commonly, those with the “bad” sins: homosexuality, adultery, drug addiction, etc (I thought about including pedophilia in this list, but I honestly don’t think many Christians would actually admit to loving someone struggling with a sin that reviled). While I wholeheartedly believe in the general idea behind this way of thinking, I think it could use a little tweaking.

First, I don’t think people are actually putting this into practice; for the most part, it plays out more like hate the sin, tolerate the sinner which I guess is better than nothing. Anyway, I honestly believe that a more accurate depiction of God’s heart and the heart He would like us to have is: love the sinner, talk to him, invite him into your home, understand who he is and what he’s really like, learn about his past and his desires for the future, and some day, when the time is right, help him understand why you believe his actions grieve God and that you really believe his life would be better if he were to leave this sin behind and then, if he agrees, be there to help him through the process.